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HANNY VERPLAK
(Johanna Hermina Hendrika)
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Jij hebt geen recht om iets in ruil te vragen voor jou bijdrage aan mijn reis. Vrijheid is belangrijk. |
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BORN: 13/08/1945 (Nijmegen)
Immigrated to Australia with Henk jaspers, returned to the Netherlands. RESIDENCE: Hegdambroek 23-08, Nijmegen, Netherlands. MARRIAGES: Frans Notten, Henk Jaspers (30/12/1967). FOTO: The kitchen was renovated by Pa, with Bruynzeel cabinets above the bench and pantry opposite. |
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Foto taken on a daytrip when living in Coogee (Sydney). |
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One time Trudy and Topy came to the Netherlands to visit Ma, and were staying at Hanny's house. Once day Hanny asked them to go out shopping (or whatever), but the ladies preferred to stay seated on the sofa, saying "We only come here to see Ma".
Hanny was so pissed off, she remembers that many years later. |
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Foto taken at Hanny & Frans' house, Nijmegen, Netherlands, during Antoon's short visit in 2011.
Three years later (at Trudy's house in New Zealand) Hanny complained about Antoon's laptop on the coffee table (just visible in photo). Guess Hanny should have provided him with a proper office... |
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Life Experiences
Netherlands, Australia. Lived in Netherlands most of her life with a few years spent in Australia. Education Kleuter Klas / Bewaar School (Kindergarten) Lagere School Hogere School MULO Diplomas Fiets Diploma (Bicycle Riding) VVV Diploma (Vereniging Voor Veilig Verkeer) Traffic Rules Diploma Godsdienst Diploma (Religion Diploma - Catholicism) Type Diploma (Type Writing Diploma) Employment Supermarket Cashier (Sydney, Australia) Religion Roman Catholic Church To this date believes Jesus is God Other interests Painting Water colours |
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ABOUT HANNY:
Hanny used to be a very pleasant sister. That is, until she listened to Hans' opinions on RIGHTS and FREEDOM, resulting in the total destruction of her relationship with both Topy and Antoon. THE HANNY AFFAIR (FAMILY INCEST) Hanny developed a frienship with Roland (Topy's husband). Although not living together they remain family with frequent visits (he lives just around the corner from her and remain close friends). Roland and Hanny had some common interests (they are both artists) and a few years ago Hanny decided she wanted a closer relationship with Roland and intended to visit New Zealand and stay with him (Hanny is married and living with Frans, also that time). This got both Topy and Frans fuming and a whole lot of trouble followed (including a number of middle-of-the-night angry phonecalls). Hanny considered it her RIGHT and also expressed her view (in no uncertain terms) that Topy has NO RIGHT over Roland. Topy decided to ban her from her house and from her life, never to visit her again. She also banned Hans, who she said agreed with Hanny (although Hans doesn't seem to be aware of this). |
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Hanny was also pissed at Antoon for his emailing style and Antoon had great difficulty figuring out Hanny's emails. So Antoon sent her a link on email etiquette but she got extremely offended: |
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HANNY'S HOLIDAY |
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A few years ago she booked a flight to Christchurch to stay with Trudy (January 2014) for some 4 weeks. Antoon was disappointed that she did not plan for a stopover (Melbourne airport) and spend some time with him also. She said she just wanted the cheapest fare but did not talk with him prior to booking. Antoon decided to visit Trudy and Hanny in Christchurch for a week, and had a pleasant time together. Topy had to be avoided (cat mouse game), no visits to or from her. Antoon called her to invite her for dinner but she declined. We toured the city and saw the massive destruction from the recent earthquakes. The issue of her not visiting Antoon came up. If the issue was a lack of money, Antoon suggested we could have talked about that (eg contributing to the difference in fare). Antoon had no idea that she planned another trip two years later. When she did book the next visit, she asked Antoon if "is your offer to pay the difference still open?". Antoon replied we can talk about it. In a follow-up email he suggested that in return she might assist him once or twice by sitting on the tractor holding the steering wheel straight (for about one hour) while Antoon sprayed the noxious weeds on foot behind the tractor (tractor driving on auto). That got her fuming... she argued Antoon has no right to ask anything in exchange especially when he offered to pay her fare (For the previous visit, he said we could have talked about it). Hanny also argued that she should have the freedom to do what she likes when visiting Antoon. He explained again and again he made no offer and whether he did or not, she might be happy to extend a helping hand saving him doing the same job on his own for around 4 hours getting on and off the tractor continously with the job being only half as good. Antoon learned she had been talking with Hans about this, who encouraged her about RIGHTS and told Antoon "freedom is important". |
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Hanny wrote to Antoon that he has NO RIGHT to ask anything in exchange for paying the difference in air fare. Hans agreed. In fact Hans influenced her to come to that decision. Hanny did not visit Antoon. In a later email: |
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Hans' email was in relation to Hanny's statement. Subsequent email exchanges were not pleasant, but Antoon decided to visit Trudy and Hanny again in Christchurch after confirming the arrival and departure dates.
About a week before scheduled departure Antoon got an email from Trudy asking him what his departure date is, as she and Hanny were planning a bus trip to Duniden. Antoon replied... "I cannot come with you? Why don't we rent a car for the three of us?" Antoon thinking it was to be a sightseeing trip. Subsequently it turned out they wanted to visit Trudy's son's family (Tony) but did not want me to come. Antoon felt very offended and decided not to board the flight. Later, on asking why, Trudy gave 6 different and conflicting reasons. THE SAME STUNT: HANNY'S VISIT TO TRUDY (NOVEMBER 2017) No mention again by hanny that she would again be overflying Toon. Trudy said he could visit during November as long as he leaves again before November 27, because they planned to visit Antoinette in Hamilton, and to visit the Auckland Flowershow. Antoon not invited. Hanny has been very bitchy lately. She said that recently she received counselling and that her eyes were opened. Obviously she got the wrong kind of counselling, certainly not on relationships. Or if it was, the counseller counselled her mainly on 'rights' and not responsibilities (never mind that exercising rights comes at the expense of someone else, but that seems modern Dutch attitudes for you). ANOTHER BETRAYAL In 2011 during a visit from Frans and Hanny, we decided to see if we could find Michael (who had been in hiding for years) and we agreed not to disclose his address should we find him. We succeeded after a very eventful trip but the reception was very unpleasant. Judy (his wife) did her best to make it a happier event. Michael was told that we would not pass on his whereabouts to others. A few months later Hans wrote a letter to Michael, using the address Hanny gave to him!!! Although Hanny argued it 'might have been Frans (her husband) who gave it to Hans'... Antoon had always hoped to make amends with Michael at some time in the future, but this would put a stop to that. But Hanny argued, 'its about the money' (Michael owed to Hans). Antoon had earlier suggested there was a way that the money issue might be settled involving a 3-way transaction, but it should initiated by Antoon. Ignored by Hans. Not smart... SOME MORE BITCHING Anyway, just to do a little more bitching... in 2011 Antoon visited Nijmegen and stayed with Frans and Hanny. That was really appreciated being collected from and returned to Brussels airport. A very memorably time and bought a few things such as slippers with are only just now (2016) beginning to fall apart. Three years later (2014) when Hanny and Antoon were with Trudy in Christchurch, Hanny complained to Trudy about Antoon's laptop having been on their coffee table all week. So sorry about that Hanny, but why not just complain at the time? (Wie had het over ouwe koeien uit de sloot halen?) Just like you told Antoon he should have complained to you when you were complaining to Trudy... Yes, his bedroom was nice but maybe she should have given him a fully equipped office... ha ha. During the same visit, Hanny told Trudy about Hans telling Hanny about Arlene and Antoon having split up. She quoted Hans as saying "there must be a reason why she left..." Excuse me Hanny & Hans, for one it's none of your business, second that's not at all how it went and third, it implies Hans suggesting there's something wrong with Antoon (no fault found in Arlene?) RELATIONS NOT SO EASY? WEG ERMEE (NET ALS MIENTJE) Here is an example of how Hanny also cannot carry a discussion. I write about Topy (and only about Topy), Hanny replies but adds an irrelevant bit about Anton & Frans years earlier) telling Antoon he is 'rude', then Antoon responds to that and Hanny stops writing... (same character as Topy): |
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From: Hanna Verplak Sent: Sunday, May 25, 2014 12:56 AM To: toon@verplak.net Subject: Land here I am again. did you join the working bee????? or was it not meant for you????? and the stump was in the way or just for fun??? anyway, it works.!!!!!!!!!! just looked at the wee movie about the dog,,,,,very good.....and what a shame of your land, so beautiful....but so is life I read the story and it is always the same....Cato looks only at others and not what she does or write herself...so you can't win.She is God, she knows everything and she is the judge. mind you, the way you write about Frans is also not nice, ( sheets ) as there is no need for that and you forget what he did for you, say,- fixing the toilet the very first day he was there... just to remind you , don't be so rude,,,,everybody has bad things or different opinins, special when you stay somewhere ther are always little inconvienents for both party's So you did not go to chch or where ever. I would go, because you want to leave aussie and you have to make a new living somewhere else.....never mind Cato.... at least it is simelar to aussie in a way. Don't think you could live here as we don;t have that much space. Unless yu would buy a house in the north of Holland. but you cannot compare it with aussi or nz. Still, holland is oke, tom poezen en lekker gebak and so...bla bla bla and many free things you are given on the street and in the shops to try out....ha ha ha. but that doesn't make a living of course..... gonne wrap a parcel for a birthdayparty tonight, which I don't feel going, so we will go late and stay short..... keep calm and follow your own path......you can make friends in CHCH too. and I will visit you.... hanna |
| Hanny also missed the point. Antoon wanted to return to Christchurch to be close to his sisters. Not interested to make a major move only to play cat & mouse games with Topy!!! |
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From: Toon To: Hanna Verplak Cc: Toon Subject: Land Hello Hanny, Emails are recovered now, and I really must reply to this mail you sent, in respect of the part I highlighted in blue. Because, after having dealt with it with Frans (which only resulted in arguments), twice you butted in on it and this is the third time. Like Trudy, I HATE ARGUMENTS, please don’t start them. Did you know... in some respects you are similar to Topy, in starting (and continuing) arguments. I have seen you at work... if you want to know I will tell you. Let me first tell you some of my background. Many years ago when I lived alone and slept like most people do in Holland (shower only in the morning) I found that after time the matrass got dirty to the point I had to throw it away. Later I used matrass protectors but they only delayed the problem. As I started to associate with other cultures I learned that Asian people generally shower at night (in addition to mornings). There is a very good reason for that, because they don’t like to go to sleep in their body sweat. I have adopted that practise and found that sleeping between clean sheets (and clean matrass) is very enjoyable. Having a shower at night keeps the bedding (and matrass clean), even after many years of use. It is very embarrassing to have other guests staying who are forced to sleep on a dirty smelling matrass. I have a perfect right to ask my guests to also shower at night, PARTICULARLY AFTER HAVING WORKED ON THE LAND IN SUMMER. And about the word “vetkop” (in another email). I still use language as taught at home... that word was often used, but I will apologise for it. It is a fact that Frans has very oily hair and after just a week or so I noticed his pillow being very dark. He said he forgot (to put a towel or something on it). Another GOOD reason to shower at night. So please understand. Don’t tell me I am rude, in fact it is very rude not to comply with such a simple request. It has nothing to do with what he did for me, no need for excuses. When I stayed with Topy, I complied with her shower and other requests. I DO NOT ARGUE ABOUT IT. Then recently you re-started the '’toilet roll” thing.... making out as if I forced my will on your household (when I stayed with you 3 years ago)... IT WAS NOTHING MORE THAN A DEBATE (and you disagreed with Frans). Why Hanny? Why??? Do you just enjoy arguing? Also recently I heard a complaint about my laptop being on your coffee table during my few days stay in 2011. Three years later you complain... I will send you some photos from my other laptop later. Toon |
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From: Hanna Verplak <3hhloore@gmail.com> To: "toon@verplak.net" Cc: Date: Sat, 19 Jul 2014 13:18:30 +0200 Subject: 15 juli mijn email komt terug, zo zegt de computer, waarin staat O.A. mijn reactie dat ik op Cato lijk of zoiets. Heel goed dat je vraagt aan mij om te stoppen met het verleden, en IN DEZELFDE EMAIL je weer begint over oily hair en zo en Cato dus !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maar goed, Voor mij hoeft dit geschrijf niet meer, het draagt NIETS postiefs toe aan mijn leven. Voor mij is het verleden, dit gezeur gaat al veel te lang door. Ik weet precies wat je gaat schrijven hierop, maar daar heb ik geen behoefte meer aan... Oeverloos gezwets voorlopig dus geen meel mail meer naar jou en ook maar niet aan mij sturen Dank U Hanna |
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As we can see, if someone cannot accept her bitching, just piss them off... no dialog... Antoon explains why he doesn't want dirty smelling matrasses, and Hanny just pisses him off. It's no 'little inconvenience' Hanny... it would require buying a new mattrass each time after Frans' visit. Perhaps you put your mattrasses in your washing machine???
You have NO RIGHT to tell Antoon how to run his home. |
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ETIQUETTE
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Frans Notten, Penningmeester
Bestuur - Volkstuinen 'De Smalle Steeg', Nijmegen. https://www.volkstuinendesmallesteeg.nl/bestuur FOTO SOURCE: https://www.volkstuinendesmallesteeg.nl/tuin/wp-content/uploads/2016Frans.jpg Frans forgot to comb his hair prior to the photo-session... :) |
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In 2011, Frans came to Antoon for about 6 weeks to help on his farm erecting the big shed. Unfortunately, the foundations were not in place yet but we did a good amount of other work.
There were however some close encounters and it was only a matter of luck that Frans escaped serious injury. A following visit was discussed and Antoon asked for a discussion on 3 matters:
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Oscar rolls around in the garden in the piss & droppings of animals moving around there. Collecting remains of snails & snail poison and other maybe more interesting wildlife in his fur coat. (He can't help that!!)
He & neighbouring cats go in the house, dividing their collection over the home, entering your bedroom roll over in or on your bed carefully spreading around more collections & wildlife...
Germs, Oscars wildlife, maggots, flies... Quite a zoo you have around... |
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To view Antoon's reply, please scroll down.
Actually, safety was not discussed. Didn't get to that. But Frans is very good at snoring at night. In fact he can be heard through the walls in the other side of the house! In view of the hospitality extended to Frans (including the consumption by Frans of 9 litres of pure Overproof Bundaberg Rum - which costed more than the airfare), Antoon suggested they will not visit each other again. Then Hans waded in with his judgement, but refused any dialog. No apology received ever. In a recent email the 'lakens enzo' issue was raised by Hanny for no apparent reason (which was an issue between Frans and Antoon). Antoon is not allowed to have some basic houserules in his home... She demanded that Antoon puts up with 'the little inconvenience' of visitors. Years later the arguments continue. Ouwe koeien uit de sloot halen? PS: Guests may additionally shower in the morning, or any time of day... Hanny and Frans are the perfect argumentive couple. When they visited Antoon together, they argued deep into the night (like 2am)... and when nobody could win, there was a pause... then Hanny opened a new topic to argue about, adding: "Laten we het daar eens over hebben"... Some years earlier Hanny and Frans both visited Topy and they slept in Topy's converted garage. One time Topy made a negative comment relating to that, and that was the last time Frans visited New Zealand. Any similarity? Subsequent visits by Hanny were without Frans. |
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RECOMMENDED READING:
Click the icon to view Antoon's response to Frans' email concerning Antoon's "dierentuin" (zoo). |
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DIERENTUIN NOTTEN (ZOO NOTTEN)
Waking up in the morning, Notten brushes teeth before breakfast. From that point, accumulation of bacteria as at no other times the teeth will get a scrubbing during the ensuing 24 hours. Breakfast… food particles collected between teeth… Lunch… more food particles collected between teeth… Dinner… still more food particles collected between teeth… The bacteria zoo is coming to life… Ah… don’t forget… in Holland it is said (by Notten) that flies inside the house are normal… and of course the flies will take occasional rests on eatingware and what-not. Guess where those flies also sit… yep… dog shit (of which there is plenty in Nijmegen) and rotting carcasses. All now reside in the Notten residence. Wait… Frans has to blow his (dripping) nose during breakfast, lunch and dinner)… take out the handkerchief, search for a vacant spot, bring to nose and blow hard… (so hard paper tissue would be blown to bits… no matter how many layers). See the fluid with germs being sprayed all over the table… with the others looking on and enjoying the germs landing on their food also. More germs… getting crowded now… in addition spreading them around on the utensils… Maybe the liberal quantities of alcohol keep some in check… at least in Notten’s mouth. Night falls… bedtime… no shower (bed sheets will smell foul of body germs within days after having been duly washed by Notten’s partner), no teeth scrubbing (after you eat, bacteria go crazy over the sugar on your teeth, like ants at a picnic), no mouth washing. The day’s collection of germs have now congregated ready to be passed on to his partner when/if kissing good-night. Hope the alcohol doesn’t smell too bad… but the day’s accumulation of sweat might add to the mix. Oh… and bacteria that live off perspiration on our body and creates that bad smell. ... And… go to the toilet and after doing a Number 2, scrape the paper off the wall (yes, Notten insists the paper comes down from the inside) and in the process rubbing some poo (loaded with germs) onto the wall… (might be almost invisible though). Then other household members using the same toilet roll collect some on their hand… yummy… Still more germs… Good heavens… who is snoring so loud… can be heard through all the walls… it’s the alcohol talking, any psycologist will tell you (Notton’s partner also). But Notten insists it’s his nose. Well, no matter, all is washed off in the morning shower… (except what stays on the toilet wall and where the flies have been sitting). How to blow your nose ? It's best to follow a few basic guidelines for blowing your nose especially when you're ill. STEP 1: Use paper facial tissues instead of cloth handkerchiefs. Germs thrive in dark, moist environments. Wadded-up hankies are a perfect breeding ground for them. STEP 2: Avoid blowing your nose too hard. Too much pressure will force infectious drainage into your ears and sinuses. STEP 3: Press one finger over one nostril. STEP 4: Blow gently through the open nostril. STEP 5: Repeat on the opposite side. STEP 6: Use tissues once, then throw them away. STEP 7: Wash your hands. Germs will be on your fingers after you've handled your nose and your tissue. Don't spread the germs to other people or back to yourself. And drink extra fluids or use steam to thin the mucus, making it easier to blow gently. http://www.flickr.com/photos/naser/298443329/ Notten wrote: Oscar rolls around in the garden in the piss & droppings of animals moving around there. Collecting remains of snails & snail poison and other maybe more interesting wildlife in his fur coat. (He can't help that!!) He & neighbouring cats go in the house, dividing their collection over the home, entering your bedroom roll over in or on your bed carefully spreading around more collections & wildlife... Germs, Oscars wildlife, maggots, flies... Quite a zoo you have around... |
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CHILDHOOD FRIENDS:
Rinie Keller (472 Berg en Dalseweg, Nijmegen) And 60 years later... still friends |
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Then there was the occasion when Antoon introduced his girlfriend to Frans... he just ignored her. And again a little later, utter rudeness!! |
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CHILDREN AND THEIR ACTIVITIES
Elles (Elles Jaspers, 21/10/1975)
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